History and Traditions: Weddings of Queen Victoria and Her Children

by Susan Flantzer – compiled, revised, and edited from articles at Unofficial Royalty 
© Unofficial Royalty 2018

Engraved illustration from Harper’s Weekly newspaper of the wedding of the Prince of Wales (later King Edward VII) and Alexandra of Denmark at St. George’s Chapel, Windsor; Credit – Wikipedia

During the reign of Queen Victoria (1837 – 1901), royal weddings started to move more toward the customs of today’s royal weddings. They were not in any sense as public as today’s royal weddings but sometimes there were opportunities for the public to see the wedding processions if the wedding was held at the Chapel Royal at St. James’ Palace in London. Even the weddings of Queen Victoria and the weddings of two future kings (Edward VII and George V), all of which occurred during Victoria’s reign, were nowhere near the occasions of the weddings of the future Queen Elizabeth II, her heir Prince Charles or the next heir Prince William.

Westminster Abbey was not a royal wedding venue during Queen Victoria’s reign. There would not be a royal wedding at Westminster Abbey until Queen Victoria’s granddaughter Princess Patricia of Connaught married The Honorable Alexander Ramsay there in 1919, eighteen years after Queen Victoria’s death. This was the first major royal event after World War I and the first royal wedding at Westminster Abbey since the 1382 wedding of King Richard II and Anne of Bohemia. With Queen Victoria herself and several of her children, we see a continuation of weddings at the Chapel Royal at St. James’ Palace in London that had become somewhat of the norm with the earlier Hanovers. However, we also see the start of royal weddings at St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle. In 1863, the wedding of Queen Victoria’s eldest son and heir, the future King Edward VII of the United Kingdom, and Princess Alexandra of Denmark would be the first royal wedding held at St. George’s Chapel, a tradition which has continued to this day for many members of the British Royal Family.

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First Cousins’ Marriage

Wedding of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha at the Chapel Royal at St. James’ Palace, London; Credit – Wikipedia

Queen Victoria and her husband Prince Albert of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha were first cousins. Victoria’s mother, born Victoria of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld, and Albert’s father Ernst I, Duke of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha were siblings. The Coburg family had strong ties to the British Royal Family. Victoria and Albert’s uncle Leopold of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld had married Princess Charlotte of Wales, the only child of King George IV who had died tragically in childbirth. Leopold’s sister Victoria had married King George III’s son, Edward, Duke of Kent, and was the mother of Queen Victoria. The Dowager Duchess of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld, the grandmother of Victoria and Albert, suggested the possibility of marriage between them in a letter to her daughter Victoria, Duchess of Kent, in 1821, when the children were but two years old. Later, the idea was taken up by their uncle Leopold, who became the first King of the Belgians in 1831.

First cousins Victoria and Albert met for the first time in 1836 when Albert and his elder brother Ernst visited England. Seventeen-year-old Victoria seemed instantly infatuated with Albert. She wrote to her uncle Leopold, “How delighted I am with him, and how much I like him in every way. He possesses every quality that could be desired to make me perfectly happy.”

In October of 1839, Albert and Ernst again visited England, staying at Windsor Castle with Victoria, who was now Queen. On October 15, 1839, the 20-year-old monarch summoned her cousin Albert and proposed to him. Albert accepted, but wrote to his stepmother, “My future position will have its dark sides, and the sky will not always be blue and unclouded.”

The couple was married in the Chapel Royal at St. James’ Palace in London on February 10, 1840, at 1 PM. Traditionally, royal weddings took place at night, but this wedding was held during the day so Queen Victoria’s subjects could see the couple as they traveled down The Mall from Buckingham Palace.

Queen Victoria’s wedding dress

Albert wore the uniform of a British field marshal, over which hung the collar of the Order of the Garter, an honor that had recently been bestowed on him by Victoria. Her wedding dress was of rich white satin, trimmed with orange flower blossoms. On her head, she wore a wreath of the same flowers, over which was a veil of Honiton lace. She wore her Turkish diamond necklace and earrings and Albert’s wedding present of a sapphire brooch.

Most of the wedding guests were members of the British royal family and the Coburg ducal family. The simple ceremony took place at the altar and was performed by the Archbishop of Canterbury, the Archbishop of York, and the Bishop of London. There had been no rehearsal and the chapel was really too small for the large wedding party. The bridesmaids stepped on each other’s dresses and kicked each other’s heels. At times it appeared Albert was not quite sure what he should be doing, and he seemed rather awkward and embarrassed.

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The Dynastic Marriage

The Marriage of Victoria, Princess Royal, 25 January 1858 by John Phillip; Credit – Royal Collection Trust/ © Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II

Victoria and Albert’s first child was born on November 21, 1840, at Buckingham Palace, nine months after her parents’ marriage. Named Victoria after her mother and called Vicky in the family, she was created Princess Royal in 1841.

In 1851, Prince Wilhelm of Prussia (the future King of Prussia and German Emperor) and his wife Augusta were invited to London by Queen Victoria to visit the Great Exhibition in Hyde Park, which her husband Prince Albert was instrumental in organizing. Wilhelm and Augusta brought their two children, 20-year-old Friedrich and 13-year-old Louise. On a visit to the Great Exhibition, ten-year-old Vicky was allowed to accompany the group as a companion to Louise. Despite being only ten years old, Vicky made an impression on Friedrich (Fritz), who was ten years older.

Four years later, in 1855, Fritz was invited back to England by Victoria and Albert for a visit to their Scottish home Balmoral. Both the British and Prussian royal families expected that Fritz and Vicky should come to a decision about their future together. Fritz was second in line to the Prussian throne after his father, who was expected to succeed his childless brother. Despite the fact that the marriage would not be universally popular in either country, Vicky and Fritz agreed to marry each other. Their marriage would be one of the most romantic of royal marriages. Because Vicky was so young, her parents decreed that the wedding would have to wait until Vicky was 17 years old.

Because Vicky was marrying a future monarch, the wedding was expected to be in Berlin. However, Queen Victoria had other ideas: “The assumption of it being too much for a Prince Royal of Prussia to come over to marry the Princess Royal of Great Britain in England is too absurd, to say the least…Whatever may be the usual practice of Prussian Princes, it is not every day that one marries the eldest daughter of the Queen of England. The question must, therefore, be considered as settled and closed…” Queen Victoria got her way and the wedding was scheduled for Monday, January 25, 1858, in the Chapel Royal of St. James’ Palace in London, England, where the bride’s parents had been married.

Queen Victoria, Prince Albert and Victoria, Princess Royal; Photo Credit – Wikipedia

Eighteen carriages and 300 soldiers were in the procession for the short ride from Buckingham Palace to St. James’ Palace. Queen Victoria and Vicky were in the very last carriage. Vicky’s four brothers were in Highland dress and the elder two (Bertie and Alfred) preceded the Queen down the aisle. Vicky’s two younger brothers (Arthur and Leopold) accompanied their mother down the aisle followed by three of Vicky’s four sisters (Alice, Helena, and Louise) who were dressed in white lace over pink satin. Beatrice, Vicky’s youngest sibling, was left back at Buckingham Palace as she was not even a year old. Next came Fritz, wearing a dark blue tunic and white trousers, the uniform of the Prussian First Infantry Regiment of the Guard, accompanied by his father and his uncle Prince Albrecht of Prussia. Finally, Vicky came down the aisle escorted by her father Prince Albert and her great-uncle King Leopold I of the Belgians.

John Sumner, Archbishop of Canterbury, conducted the service and he was so nervous that he left out several parts of the service. However, Queen Victoria was pleased that both “Vicky and Fritz spoke plainly,” as she wrote in her journal. The service was concluded with George Friedrich Handel’s Hallelujah Chorus and then Vicky and Fritz led the recessional to The Wedding March by Felix Mendelssohn, the first time it was used for a wedding. Thereafter it became a popular wedding recessional. The music is from a suite of incidental music to Shakespeare’s play A Midsummer Night’s Dream. Queen Victoria loved Mendelssohn’s music and the composer often played for her when he visited Great Britain. After the wedding, Vicky and Fritz led the carriage procession back to Buckingham Palace where they appeared on the balcony with and without their parents.

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“More of a Funeral than a Wedding”

Princess Alice and Ludwig of Hesse and by Rhine on their wedding day; Photo Credit – Wikipedia

With Vicky married to the Prussian heir, Victoria and Albert had hoped to make an equally impressive marriage for their second eldest daughter Alice. A visit from Willem, Prince of Orange, the eldest son of King Willem III of the Netherlands who would predecease his father, had failed to make a positive impression on Alice and her parents. Vicky had met the future Ludwig IV, Grand Duke of Hesse and by Rhine in the early months of her marriage and suggested that he may be suitable for Alice. Ludwig visited England with his brother Heinrich in 1860 to watch the Ascot Races – and to meet Alice. The visit was a success, and during the second visit in December of the same year, the couple became engaged. The engagement was announced in April 1861, with a wedding tentatively planned for the following spring.

Unfortunately for Alice and Ludwig, the British royal family suffered two deaths in 1861. Queen Victoria’s mother, the Duchess of Kent, died in March 1861. While still grieving her loss, Prince Albert died on December 14, 1861, after a short illness. As the eldest daughter still at home, it fell to Alice to console her grieving mother through the following months. Alice ran herself so ragged during this time that during a visit with her fiancé in the spring of 1862, Ludwig was genuinely worried for her health.

Vicky’s wedding in 1858 had been a grand affair but Alice’s was a sad ceremony meant for close family only. A muted celebration was scheduled for July 1, 1862, at Osborne House in the Isle of Wight. The wedding ceremony was planned for the dining room at Osborne House, preventing the guest list from growing too large. Alice’s sisters Helena, Louise, and Beatrice served as bridesmaids, along with Ludwig’s sister Anna. Prince Albert’s brother Ernst II, Duke of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha was recruited to give the bride away.

Although Alice and her mother apparently took some joy in arranging her trousseau, all of the outfits were black due to the required mourning. Alice wore a white dress trimmed with Honiton lace, orange blossoms, and myrtle. Her bridesmaids wore similar white dresses, but all of the women changed back into black mourning attire immediately following the service.

The Marriage of Princess Alice, 1st July 1862 by George Housman Thomas; Credit – Royal Collection Trust © Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II 2017

Queen Victoria would later describe the service to Vicky who was unable to attend due to a pregnancy as “more of a funeral than a wedding.” Other guests similarly described the wedding as being a very sad occasion. Alice’s brothers cried throughout the service, as did the Archbishop of Canterbury, who officiated. The death of Ludwig’s aunt Mathilde a few weeks before the wedding did nothing to raise the spirits of the wedding guests. During the ceremony, Queen Victoria continually stared at a portrait of Albert with his family hanging above the bride and groom.

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“Sea King’s daughter from over the sea”

Alexandra of Denmark and The Prince of Wales; Photo Credit – Wikipedia

Before he died, Prince Albert, along with his wife, had been searching for a bride for the Prince of Wales, called Bertie in the family. Bertie’s elder sister Vicky was enlisted to help with the search. Princess Alexandra of Denmark, the daughter of the future King Christian IX of Denmark, had originally been fifth on the list of potential brides, but Vicky thought Alix, as she was called in her family, would be the perfect match for Bertie and she sent back glowing reports of her to Victoria and Albert. Prince Albert came to the conclusion that Alix was “the only one to be chosen.” Vicky then arranged the first meeting between Alix and Bertie in Speyer Cathedral in Germany on September 24, 1861. On September 9, 1862,  Bertie proposed to Alix at the Royal Palace of Laeken, the home of his great-uncle, King Leopold I of the Belgians.

Princess Alexandra arrived in England on March 7, 1863, having sailed from Denmark aboard the British royal yacht Victoria and Albert II. Alfred, Lord Tennyson, the Poet Laureate, wrote the following ode in her honor:

A Welcome to Alexandra

Sea King’s daughter from over the sea,
Alexandra!
Saxon and Norman and Dane are we,
But all of us Danes in our welcome of thee,
Alexandra!

Despite her perpetual mourning for Prince Albert, Queen Victoria decreed that the Prince of Wales should be married with “the utmost magnificence”, and chose St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle as the site of the ceremony. This would be the first of many royal weddings at St. George’s Chapel. The wedding date was set for March 10, 1863.

Alix’s dress was a gift from King Leopold I of the Belgians. It was made of white silk trimmed with orange blossoms and myrtle and was overlaid with flounces of tulle and Honiton lace. The train, 21-feet in length, was of silver moiré also trimmed in orange blossoms. Her veil, trimmed with the same lace as her gown, featured English roses, Irish shamrocks, and Scottish thistles, and was held in place by a wreath of orange blossoms and myrtle atop her head. She was supported by her father, Prince Christian of Denmark and Prince George, Duke of Cambridge, Queen Victoria’s first cousin. Bertie wore a full dress uniform of a British General beneath his Garter Robes and was supported by his brother-in-law, Crown Prince Friedrich of Prussia, and his uncle, Ernst II, Duke of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha.

Painting by William Frith, circa 1865; Credit – Wikipedia

During the wedding ceremony, Queen Victoria, in perpetual mourning for Prince Albert, sat in the Catherine of Aragon Closet, a room with an oriel window overlooking the left side of the altar. Dressed in a black silk dress with white collar and cuffs, along with her widow’s cap, she took her seat largely out of view of the guests in the chapel. She can be seen in the above painting on the top right.

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The Russian Marriage

Wedding of Grand Duchess Maria Alexandrovna and Prince Alfred at the Winter Palace; Credit – Wikipedia

All of Queen Victoria’s children with the exception of Prince Alfred were married in the United Kingdom. Alfred married Grand Duchess Maria Alexandrovna of Russia, the only daughter of Alexander II, Emperor of All Russia and Marie of Hesse and by Rhine (Empress Maria Alexandrovna). During several visits to relatives, Alfred and Maria had met each other and wanted to marry. Despite the misgivings of Queen Victoria and Maria’s parents, the couple was married at the Winter Palace in St. Petersburg, Russia on January 23, 1874. First, there was a Russian Orthodox ceremony in the Grand Church of the Winter Palace and then a Church of England ceremony was conducted by Arthur Stanley, the Dean of Westminster in Alexander Hall at the Winter Palace. Three of Alfred’s siblings attended the wedding. The Prince and Princess of Wales (Edward, known in the family as Bertie, and his wife, the former Alexandra of Denmark, known as Alix) officially represented Queen Victoria. Also attending were Prince Arthur and Queen Victoria’s eldest child Victoria and her husband Friedrich, German Crown Prince. The members of Queen Victoria’s court who had traveled to St Petersburg to attend the wedding were overwhelmed by the scale of the celebrations, receptions, and entertainments marking the marriage.

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The Happy but Short Marriage

Prince Leopold and Princess Helena of Waldeck-Pyrmont; Photo Credit – Wikipedia

Prince Leopold was the youngest son of Queen Victoria and Prince and was described as delicate from a very early age. It became apparent that he suffered from the genetic disease hemophilia and was the first of the nine hemophiliacs among Queen Victoria’s descendants.

Leopold saw marriage as a way to become independent from Queen Victoria, his overbearing mother. Besides having hemophilia, Leopold also had mild epilepsy. Although hemophilia had more serious consequences, it was a disease that was not completely understood at the time, and it was Leopold’s epilepsy that caused him problems while seeking a bride. Epilepsy was considered a social stigma and many families hid away their epileptic relatives. After Leopold was rejected by several potential royal brides, Queen Victoria and her eldest daughter Victoria stepped in and made arrangements for Leopold and Princess Helena of Waldeck-Pyrmont to meet in Darmstadt where Leopold was staying with Ludwig IV, Grand Duke of Hesse and by Rhine, who was the widower of Leopold’s sister Alice.

Leopold and Helena liked one another immediately, and after being briefed on Leopold’s health, the Waldeck-Pyrmont family had no objections to the marriage. During a visit to Helena’s family home, Leopold proposed and Helena accepted. The couple became engaged on November 17, 1881. Leopold was ecstatic when he wrote of the news to his brother-in-law Ludwig, widower of his sister Alice: “…we became engaged this afternoon…Oh, my dear brother, I am so overjoyed, and you, who have known this happiness, you will be pleased for me, won’t you?…You only know Helena a little as yet – when you really know her, then you will understand why I’m mad with joy today.”

The wedding was planned for April 27, 1882, at St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle. Leopold took an interest in the planning of the wedding ceremony, requesting the assistance of composer and personal friend Charles Gounod to compose a march specifically for the wedding. His supporters were the Prince of Wales (his eldest brother) and Ludwig IV, Grand Duke of Hesse and by Rhine, the widower of his sister Alice. Due to a hemophilia-related injury, Leopold walked with a slight limp at the wedding.

Helena in her wedding dress; Photo Credit – Wikipedia

Helena’s dress, a gift from her sister and her sister Queen Emma of the Netherlands. The gown was made of white satin, decorated with traditional orange blossom and myrtle and trimmed with fleur-de-lis. The long tulle veil was held in place by a diamond headdress and a wreath of orange flowers and myrtle. The bride was led down the aisle by her father and her brother-in-law, King Willem III of the Netherlands. Helena had a group of eight British aristocratic women serve as her bridesmaids. The ceremony concluded in the early afternoon and was followed by a wedding breakfast, after which the new couple headed to their new home, Claremont House.

Unfortunately, Leopold and Helena’s marriage was short-lived. In early 1884, Leopold’s doctors recommended that he spend the winter in Cannes, France, which he had done before. At the time, Helena was expecting her second child. On March 27, 1884, Leopold slipped and fell on the staircase at Villa Nevada, the private home where he was staying in Cannes. He injured his knee and hit his head, and died early in the morning of March 28, 1884, apparently of a cerebral hemorrhage, the injuries having been exacerbated by his hemophilia. He was only 31 years old. Prince Leopold, Duke of Albany was buried in the Albert Memorial Chapel at St. George’s Chapel, Windsor Castle.

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The Princess Who Stayed Home

Prince Henry  of Battenberg and Princess Beatrice by Unknown photographer albumen cabinet card, 1880s NPG x32978 © National Portrait Gallery, London

Princess Beatrice was born on April 14, 1857, the youngest of the nine children of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert. Beatrice’s parents realized that she would be their last child, and she was treated differently than her siblings. Prince Albert described her as “an extremely attractive, pretty, intelligent child – indeed the most amusing baby we have had.” Known as Baby in the family, Beatrice filled a void for her parents when her eldest sister Victoria, Princess Royal married less than a year after her birth and left to live in Prussia with her new husband. By the time Beatrice was three years old, she was an aunt twice over from that marriage.

When Prince Albert died in 1861, Beatrice was only four and a half and had lost one of her principal role models. Queen Victoria was grief-stricken. Because of her mother’s prolonged grief and mourning, Beatrice’s life would forever be shaped by her father’s death. She became a great solace to her mother, and as the years progressed, Queen Victoria hoped that Beatrice would always be her constant companion.

At the age of six, Beatrice had declared, “I don’t like weddings at all. I shall never be married. I shall stay with mother.” Queen Victoria said of Beatrice, “She is my constant companion and hope and trust will never leave me while I live.” By the age of fifteen, Beatrice was writing letters on behalf of Queen Victoria and she was developing into the quiet, attentive, and devoted helper the Queen wanted. When the last of her sisters married and left home, Beatrice took on the job of being her mother’s full-time personal assistant. While attending the wedding of her niece Princess Victoria of Hesse and by Rhine and Prince Louis of Battenberg in 1884, Princess Beatrice fell in love.

The man who won Beatrice’s heart was Prince Henry of Battenberg, the brother of the groom. Henry was the third of the four children of Prince Alexander of Hesse and by Rhine and Countess Julia Hauke. As his parents’ marriage was morganatic, Henry and his siblings took their titles from their mother, who had been created Countess of Battenberg (later elevated to Princess of Battenberg in 1858).

Beatrice told her mother that she wanted to marry Henry. Queen Victoria reacted with silence. For seven months, from May to November 1884, Queen Victoria and Beatrice lived together, and the Queen did not speak to Beatrice, instead, the Queen communicated with Beatrice by notes. Members of the family including the Prince and Princess of Wales (Bertie and Alix), Alice’s widower Ludwig, and Beatrice’s eldest sister (Vicky) tried to persuade the Queen to agree to Beatrice’s marriage. Queen Victoria finally realized that Beatrice would not back down and offered her conditions that must be met. Henry must renounce his career, nationality, and home and agree to live with Beatrice and the Queen. By the end of 1884, Queen Victoria and Beatrice were reconciled and a wedding was being planned.

Photo Credit – Wikipedia; THE BACK: (L-R): Prince Alexander of Bulgaria, Princess Louise of Wales, Princess Irene of Hesse and by Rhine, Princess Victoria of Wales, Prince Franz Joseph of Battenberg * THE MIDDLE: (L-R): Princess Maud of Wales, Princess Alix of Hesse and by Rhine, Princesses Marie Louise and Helena Victoria of Schleswig-Holstein * THE FRONT: (L-R): Princesses Victoria Melita, Marie and Alexandra of Edinburgh and bridal couple.

Beatrice and Henry were married on July 23, 1885, at Saint Mildred’s Church in Whippingham, Isle of Wight, England near Queen Victoria’s beloved home Osborne House. Queen Victoria allowed Beatrice to wear the Honiton lace and veil which she herself had worn on her wedding day, the only one of her daughters allowed to do so. The ten royal bridesmaids were all nieces of Princess Beatrice: Princess Alix and Princess Irene of Hesse and by Rhine; Princess Alexandra, Princess Marie and Princess Victoria Melita of Edinburgh; Princess Louise, Princess Maud and Princess Victoria of Wales; and Princess Marie Louise and Princess Helena Victoria of Schleswig-Holstein.

Beatrice and Henry kept their promise and lived with Queen Victoria and Beatrice remained her full-time confidante and secretary. Henry was often bored by the lack of activity and in an effort to give him more to do, Queen Victoria appointed him to several positions. In November of 1895, Henry persuaded Queen Victoria to allow him to go to West Africa to fight in the Anglo-Ashanti Wars. Henry arrived in Africa on Christmas Day of 1895. By January 10, 1896, Henry was sick with malaria and it was decided to send him back to England. However, Henry died aboard ship off the coast of Sierra Leone at the age of 37.

Following Henry’s death, Beatrice remained her mother’s companion and secretary. As Queen Victoria aged, she relied more heavily on Beatrice for dealing with correspondence and other matters. After Queen Victoria’s death, Beatrice continued to serve her. For 30 years, Beatrice transcribed and edited her mother’s journals, which Victoria had kept since 1831 when she was 12 years old. Queen Victoria had ordered Beatrice to delete material that might prove hurtful to living people. Two-thirds of the content of the original journals was deleted. These deletions distressed Beatrice’s nephew, King George V and his wife Queen Mary, who could do nothing, and many historians since who felt that valuable information has been lost forever. The 111 notebooks that Beatrice copied are kept in the Royal Archives at Windsor Castle.

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Victoria, Queen of the United Kingdom (granddaughter of George III) married (1840) Albert of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha at the Chapel Royal in St. James’ Palace in London, England

Three of Queen Victoria’s grandchildren married in the United Kingdom during her reign. All three were children of her eldest son and heir, the future King Edward VII. Their Unofficial Royalty wedding articles are listed below.

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